How to Live MINDFULLY
Mindfulness Series – Tip One:
Become AWARE of your thoughts as an OBSERVER – by:
- NOT buying into any drama or paranoia
- NOT creating and believing a ‘story’ that is negative and full of fear
- NOT giving the thought a painful or destructive meaning
Have the understanding, that those negative thoughts, are not YOU – they are simply your default, fear-based, negative thoughts. These have been hard-wired from Primitive times (our Reptilian Brain) – when humans needed to be on the alert for Sabre toothed tigers to survive!!
Awareness of your thoughts, is the first step in re-wiring your negative neural pathways and then creating new, positive ones. The first step being, that when you have a negative thought, you can simply pause (take a long deep inhale and exhale, and count slowly to five) and create the SPACE for peace and stillness.
In that ‘space’, you can take a moment to look at that thought as an ‘observer’, (disassociated from the ego), and know, “that this is not me”, and instead, choose a more compassionate, kind and positive meaning for that thought.
A good example of putting this into practise, is if when having the negative thought: “I didn’t get the job that must mean I’m not good enough – there must be something wrong with me”, firstly, take a deep breath and slowly count one, two, three, four, and five. Whilst in that ‘space’, observe the thought in a more kind, empowering and positive way, and saying to yourself: “obviously that job wasn’t meant for me – something even better is just around the corner”.
When it comes to your thoughts, always asking yourself the question, “is this thought helpful”? In the above example, with the thought, “I’m not good enough, there must be something wrong with me”, as the observer ask yourself, “is this thought useful, or, does thinking I’m not good enough, helpful”? You can then choose a more empowering thought and meaning.
Mindfulness of THOUGHTS is key, in living a happier more peaceful and fulfilling life!